Because it's complicated, for me. I mean, I was already in a relationship, you know? But emotions are stupid. There's no one specific moment that I can pinpoint, really. But he paid attention to me and saw me as more than I saw myself.
But you're right that changing a person isn't easy. I don't want to force someone to change, though. It wouldn't be fair to them. A push in the right direction, sure -- but their decisions are theirs alone.
There's someone I admired for a bit. I thought she was really cool, she was really smart, and knew more about what I was doing than I did. I was so excited to work with her.
It turned out, she was cruel. She was bitter and hated just about all of us. She had no problem killing any of us if it meant getting what she wanted. She stole from others with a grin on her face.
Even so... I still think about the kinder senpai that I had met once. I wonder if that cruel person only came out because it was me, or if I could have done anything else to help her.
Should I have accepted that wasn't who she was, or should I have still tried to patch things up?
If someone acts one way and you learn that they're actually something else, the best thing to do is to accept their personality. "Patch things up" is not necessarily the right turn of phrase, but rather... understanding them more?
[ Give her a couple minutes. It. Makes really good sense. ]
Understand, but not commit to liking it. It might have been a good idea to talk to you after all.
[ Even though she already made that commitment. Oops. ]
Well, in her case, it's too late for that. Even if I see her again, I can't imagine that she'd know who I am, so I'd have to bury that feeling as long as I can.
I guess too, you understand if there's no hard feelings if you have any skeletons hiding in your closet?
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He's stupid.
Thank you, for trusting me with this. I'll talk some sense into him.
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I'm sorry. Really.
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This might be kind of a personal question so don't feel like you have to answer.
How were you able to tell that you liked him?
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Because it's complicated, for me. I mean, I was already in a relationship, you know? But emotions are stupid. There's no one specific moment that I can pinpoint, really. But he paid attention to me and saw me as more than I saw myself.
Also I have a type.
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..."Crazy selfless to the point where they'd sacrifice themselves"?
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It's an awful problem I have.
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I get that, honestly. All of it.
[ Was it really that selfless, though. Maybe it was, maybe it wasn't. She wants to know, but she's gotten so confused. ]
However he makes you feel, please hold onto it. Let him know, so he doesn't feel like it's not true.
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Things change. People change. I'm not so optimistic or hopeful to say anything like that. But I can at least tell him how I feel now.
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Is it that bad to accept someone, even if they aren't who they say they are?
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"Acceptance" doesn't necessarily have to be 'good' or 'bad', you know?
Just because you've accepted how someone is doesn't necessarily mean that you like it, or that you agree with it. You can, but you don't have to.
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Although, I wonder too.
Is it bad to have them become who they say they are? As opposed to what they see themselves as?
Changing a person isn't easy, but maybe if you give them a little nudge, it could turn out okay.
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But you're right that changing a person isn't easy. I don't want to force someone to change, though. It wouldn't be fair to them. A push in the right direction, sure -- but their decisions are theirs alone.
[ She knows all too well from experience. ]
1/2
I don't know what to do if someone I end up liking a lot turns out to be someone I can't stand in the end.
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As a friend, I mean.
[ If she protests it'll seem like it's deeper than that... although, when she considers it, it could apply to Fauna too. ]
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She's not going to remark on that right now, but she sure is keeping that delayed response in the back of her pocket. ]
Right.
Well, I can't give vague advice because each circumstance would be different, honestly.
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There's someone I admired for a bit. I thought she was really cool, she was really smart, and knew more about what I was doing than I did. I was so excited to work with her.
It turned out, she was cruel. She was bitter and hated just about all of us. She had no problem killing any of us if it meant getting what she wanted. She stole from others with a grin on her face.
Even so... I still think about the kinder senpai that I had met once. I wonder if that cruel person only came out because it was me, or if I could have done anything else to help her.
Should I have accepted that wasn't who she was, or should I have still tried to patch things up?
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If someone acts one way and you learn that they're actually something else, the best thing to do is to accept their personality. "Patch things up" is not necessarily the right turn of phrase, but rather... understanding them more?
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Understand, but not commit to liking it. It might have been a good idea to talk to you after all.
[ Even though she already made that commitment. Oops. ]
Well, in her case, it's too late for that. Even if I see her again, I can't imagine that she'd know who I am, so I'd have to bury that feeling as long as I can.
I guess too, you understand if there's no hard feelings if you have any skeletons hiding in your closet?
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Don't worry about me, though. I'm very much a "no skeletons allowed" in my closet. Except for the living ones.
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I'm sorry.
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Anyway. Please keep me posted on how he's doing. Sorry again to dump this on your lap.